A New Day

Today is a different day. Not the same as yesterday, or the day before. This means it doesn’t have a history yet, it hasn’t been created. Today is a day where you can start doing something that you have always wanted to do. You can forgive someone for what they did to you ten years ago. You can create new habits. You can breathe easily knowing that the troubles of yesterday are no more.

Use this day to create a new day, a day to do something that is going to make your tomorrow better. Monday (last week), I had a hard day, Tuesday I woke up and decided, that day wouldn’t be like yesterday (Monday). I decided to let the feelings subside and move on with what was in front of me. Many times, we have a bad day or a bad experience and we let it linger from day to day to day; never really experiencing a new day because we are still carrying the burdens of yesterday, so it’s really just a different day. I’ve been there, one day you look up and a whole year has gone by and you’re still in a funk about something you can’t even change.

As people we have to get in the habit of letting things go and understanding what will be, will be. We have to get in the habit of unloading some of our baggage. Your kid was disrespectful and acted a complete fool in the store, don’t let that carry over into tomorrow. A customer was rude, let it go. Things didn’t go as planned, oh well, plans change. It is important to not let experiences get in and take residence; learn to move on from them. Learn to experience new days.

Not every experience is going to come with closure, not every experience is going to lead to understanding, not every experience is going to make it easier to forgive, but with each experience you can learn and you can grow from it. Wake up each day with the attitude that today is a new day, what happened yesterday will not control my today.

Wake up knowing that you are blessed, you have been granted new mercies. Wake up knowing that your future is bright and that the only thing that can stop you from reaching you goals is you. Yesterday is out of your control but today, this new day, is yours to master!

  • Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, -Phil 3:13-
  • The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. -Lamentations 3:22-23-

Conflict Management

In life we will experience many conflicts. Conflict doesn’t have to always be with another person or thing, sometimes we wage conflict within ourselves. Learning to manage conflict properly is going to save you a lot of time and strife.

Not every argument has to occur, not ever fight has to happen, and not every wrong has to be addressed. We have all heard the saying “pick your battles wisely”, this means you can choose which battles are worth fighting.

Did you know conflict starts long before you even address the person? It starts in your mind, if you are like me you have the whole argument figured out before you ever get to the person. It may go a little something like this: I can’t believe she just said that, next time I see her I am going to let her know I didn’t like what she said and I dare her to say something back. Another example I bet when I get home the dishes are still going to be in the sink, the kids just don’t listen, they are going to get it when I get home.

What happens? You carry this conflict around with you all day and sometimes for days. The conflict is ongoing and until you can tell the person what you have played over and over again in your mind the conflict is still raging. At this point the other person doesn’t even know you all are fighting.

Story time:
One day I was leaving work, walking to my car, it was a Wednesday. On Sunday this person said something I didn’t like. It wasn’t directed toward me but I felt like they were throwing “shade” my way. I talked to my husband about it Sunday night, I talked to my best friend about it Monday, and by Tuesday I was heated. Wednesday I decided I was going to call this person as soon as I got to my car. Walking to my car I went through the whole argument, it went something like this: “Sunday you said something I really didn’t like and I feel like you were being shady, I have done nothing but support you but for you to say something like that it really hurt my feelings. Hold on let me finish (yes, I did), people think they know stuff about me but they really don’t. Everything I got, I worked hard for so for you to try and be shady knowing my struggle is really messed up.”

In this argument I knew the person wasn’t going to take responsibility for their action, I accounted for this already. After I finished sorting out how the conflict was going to in my head, I heard a voice say now is this worth your time? My answer was no, I do not have to defend my blessings. Not only that but I had let the conflict control enough of my time and energy and the sad part about it was the person never knew we were in conflict with each other.

Conflict is not just physical; it is also mental and it will disturb your peace. It will control your emotions and it will ruin relationships. Managing conflict is important. A few questions to ask yourself:

  • Is this worth my time?
  • Will what I say make a difference?
  • Is this worth my peace?
  • Is this my battle to fight?
  • Will I be okay if the relationship ends?

If you answered no to any of these questions, let it go. Not every battle is worth fighting and not every battle is yours to fight.

You know I don’t write anything without relating it back to the bible. I will leave you with two bible verses today.

  • Proverbs 15:1: A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
  • Ephesians 4:26: Be angry, and yet do not sin, do not let the sun go down on your anger.

Both verses are telling us to be careful of what we let flow out of our mouths, hearts, and minds and both are telling us to not stir up anger but let it go. Doing this is for you, it won’t feel good at first but in the end, you didn’t lose anything. You are not weak when you let conflict go you are strong because you were able to overcome and you will be rewarded in the end.

Peace is Possible 

The best thing you can do for yourself is find peace in your life and never let it go. (Psalm 34:14)


You may think this is difficult because of all that you are going through or all that you are facing but I am telling you it is possible. This is possible by letting go of what was, believing in what is, and understanding that what is to be is already taken care of.  


Letting go of what was.


You cannot change anything about your past; the hurt, the loss, the betrayal, the brokenness, you can’t change it so why hold on to it? Why keep hashing it up only to feel the feelings you felt when it first happened. Often times you are waiting on an apology or some type of understanding as to why these things happened and they never come. Now you are just stuck in the moment; a month passes, then six months, now a whole year has gone by and you’re just stuck in these feelings. Make peace with it and let it go. (Isaiah 43:18-19)



Believe in what is.


Once you let go of those things that happened to you in the past you should start believing in what is. They hurt me but this hurt is not going to define my outlook on life. They left me but I didn’t lose anything. I am going to forever miss them but I know they are in a better place. Strife can either break you or it can make you a better person; you can either let the bricks bury you or you can use them to build a solid foundation. (Isaiah 43:10)


It’s already taken care of.


God goes before us and make crooked paths straight (Isaiah 45:2); your future is already taken care of you just have to keep living and progressing. God cannot bless what you will not let him have. Give Him those things that hurt you and watch how He fix those broken pieces and make them whole again. I am 34 years old and I have experienced a lot in my short time here on this earth, things that most people never overcome. I had to learn at an early age that although it hurts it will bring me to my purpose in life. What I was going through was temporary, it was preparing me for my future. I don’t know what all God has in store for me but I do know my future is bright and yours is also. I know this without a shadow of doubt because it is written in His word. (Jeremiah 29:11)


Today forgive the unforgiven, understand that there is no understanding, trust that God doesn’t make any mistakes, and pray for the peace that you so desperately need and deserve.