Fear or Faith?

Standing in the doorway she looked out at what was in front of her and then she looked back at what was behind her. In front of her she saw new beginnings, healing, growth, beauty, new relationships, and happiness; most of all she saw the unknown. Behind her she saw the hurt, the failure, the broken relationships, the lack, and the abuse; most of all she saw familiarity. What should she do, she wondered as she stood glancing back and forward between the unknown and the familiarity. One step forward and she walks into her destiny. One step backwards and she walks into her death. Fear crippled her while faith tugged at her. Fear was telling her she couldn’t and her faith was telling her to trust God. She knew she had to let one go but which one would it be?

This is what it feels like when you let fear and faith live in the same realm, this is impossible. Fear and faith cannot exist together one must overcome the other or you always be stuck standing in the doorway wondering what if, not being able to move one way or another.  Faith is belief in the things unseen. You must believe that what lies ahead is better that what lies behind. Once you really start believing this, once you get this deep into your spirit, it is then you will be able to take that first step into the unknown. That first step of faith.


Faith is not easy but being fearful is. Having faith takes work, faith makes you work. You must work to get to those things that are in front of you. You have to get up in the morning and be present, you have to speak victory into your life, you have to read, you have to study, you have to apply yourself, you have to heal! Fear is easy, you don’t have to do anything but stay right where you are. Just sit there and dwell on all that you’ve been through and all the things that are never going to happen.

I can write about this because I have been here. In the doorway scared to step forward into faith because my fear of the unknown crippled me. Stepping forward was the best decision I ever made, it hasn’t been easy but it has been worth it.

What direction do you chose? Are you going forward in faith or are you going to step back into fear?

I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. -Romans 8:18-

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go. -Joshua 1:9-

Peace is Possible 

The best thing you can do for yourself is find peace in your life and never let it go. (Psalm 34:14)

You may think this is difficult because of all that you are going through or all that you are facing but I am telling you it is possible. This is possible by letting go of what was, believing in what is, and understanding that what is to be is already taken care of.  

Letting go of what was.

You cannot change anything about your past; the hurt, the loss, the betrayal, the brokenness, you can’t change it so why hold on to it? Why keep hashing it up only to feel the feelings you felt when it first happened. Often times you are waiting on an apology or some type of understanding as to why these things happened and they never come. Now you are just stuck in the moment; a month passes, then six months, now a whole year has gone by and you’re just stuck in these feelings. Make peace with it and let it go. (Isaiah 43:18-19)

Believe in what is.

Once you let go of those things that happened to you in the past you should start believing in what is. They hurt me but this hurt is not going to define my outlook on life. They left me but I didn’t lose anything. I am going to forever miss them but I know they are in a better place. Strife can either break you or it can make you a better person; you can either let the bricks bury you or you can use them to build a solid foundation. (Isaiah 43:10)

It’s already taken care of.

God goes before us and make crooked paths straight (Isaiah 45:2); your future is already taken care of you just have to keep living and progressing. God cannot bless what you will not let him have. Give Him those things that hurt you and watch how He fix those broken pieces and make them whole again. I am 34 years old and I have experienced a lot in my short time here on this earth, things that most people never overcome. I had to learn at an early age that although it hurts it will bring me to my purpose in life. What I was going through was temporary, it was preparing me for my future. I don’t know what all God has in store for me but I do know my future is bright and yours is also. I know this without a shadow of doubt because it is written in His word. (Jeremiah 29:11)

Today forgive the unforgiven, understand that there is no understanding, trust that God doesn’t make any mistakes, and pray for the peace that you so desperately need and deserve.

I Am……

Day 12: I am going through.

Today’s “I am” is, “I am going through”; what does this mean exactly? We often get stuck in our situations and by stuck, I mean we sit down and just watch the chaos unfold around us.

There is this country song that I absolutely love, it says, “If you’re going through Hell keep on going, don’t slow down if you’re scared, don’t show it you might get out before the devil even knows you’re there.” When I am going through something I often listen to this song or I ‘ll sing to myself. It reminds me to keep going.

Sometimes it gets hard to keep going but it is an absolute must. I know what it feels like to take two steps and get knocked back three but eventually the steps will get easier and the knock backs will become infrequent. There is a situation that I am currently facing right now. I am currently trying to improve my credit so that I can buy a house, we are finally settled in an area that we love and plan on living here for quite some time so we are ready to buy. I started researching ways to fix my credit and found some useful tips. I started diligently applying these tips to my situation but it seemed every time I would send out a letter another collector was contacting me about another debt.


At first, I got very discouraged and just about gave up. Yeah,  I almost just took a seat right there in the midst of this terrible situation. I didn’t see how it was ever going to get better if this kept happening. I prayed about the situation and had to remind myself of God’s promises and plans for my life, plans to prosper me and not harm me plans to give me hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). I got back in it and sent my letters. For the last three months I have seen a positive increase in my credit score and I am just about where I need to be to purchase my first house. Seeing these increases has made the battle much easier, I know it is possible.

Changed Mindset…

It is hard to see the outcome of a situation when you are right in the middle of it, so just keep telling yourself I am going through this, this is not where I reside. It is said that you shouldn’t live in the past but it is important to take a look back and see just how far you’ve come. Sometimes the discouragement comes from not knowing just how much you have actually conquered.

So, look back and tell yourself I am going through. Now turn around and keep going cause you’re almost there. Your reward is waiting on you, go get it!

Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him. -James 1:12-

The Why

In my 30 plus years on this earth I have experienced some really hard times, I have been through things that would have broken most people and don’t get me wrong many times I wanted to just end it all; a few times I almost did.


Just recently I was having an extremely hard day. I felt myself slipping into the dark place that I once lived in. I fought hard not to let myself go there; I played basketball, took a walk around the neighborhood, even read a few passages in my bible, but none of that worked. I sat on my porch and I just gave into the tears, the thoughts, and the darkness. I cried because I didn’t know what was going to happen to my family, I thought my children would be better without me, I didn’t see no end to all that I was going through at that time. That time in my life, that temporary time in my life.


As a child, I often felt like I wasn’t wanted or good enough. As I grew older I let it control my life, and as I grew even older I started to realize that I did not need this from others, I could have it every day from the person who wanted to give it the most, myself. People often call me conceited and I may be but the real reason behind my certainty is that I learned to love myself.


As you read earlier I am not perfect, I am far from it. I have my battles, daily! I have looked suicide in the eyes and I almost gave in to the promise of death, two times, it had me beat. The darkness that I was living in had me thinking that death was best. I overcame it and today I live hoping to be an inspiration to that person who is searching for light in a dark place or who just need something inspiring to get them through the day.


Lastly, as you read this post I hope you have found some strength, some inspiration, or some hope in knowing that you are not alone in your struggles. Having life and living are two different things and today it is my prayer that you chose to live. I am here to tell you that you are not alone, your are not alone, you are not alonel! Life is beautiful, we just have to take the time to experience all beauty it has to offer.


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-Detelshia Monet-

Get Off the Bench

“being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus” -Philippians 1:6-

Many times I had to comfort my son through not getting enough playing time in his sporting events. After all my other advice failed to make him feel better I would tell him you could always just run on the field or run on the court, this would get a laugh out of him. I would ask him who’s going to stop him? He said the coach would take him out, but he was already out so what did he have to lose? Nothing! But he had a lot to gain.

Opportunities work like this; so often we miss opportunities because we are afraid to come off the bench, in your life you do not need permission to come off the bench and join the game. You have total control of how much playing time you get. Don’t let fear of failing, fear of ridicule, doubt, and uncertainty be the reason why you missed this whole game called life. Whatever it is you have been hoping for, been inquisitive about, been wanting to try; go for it. You have nothing to lose, matter of fact you are already at a loss because you are just sitting on the bench, waiting for permission. If you want to go back to school, go! If you want a new job, apply for it! If you want to sail around the world, pack up! If you want to write a book, do it! Whatever it is that you want to do, DO IT! DO IT! DO IT!

You can give me every reason in the world as to why you can’t fulfill the vision God gave to you, but the only thing really stopping you, is you! Today I challenge you to look beyond you fears and your doubts and GET OFF THE BENCH!